Recommended Book List

Children Books
FEELINGS: 
Learning to put a name to feelings I’m having so I can express them through words rather than actions.

My Many Colored Days, By Dr. Seuss
Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day, By Judith Viorst
ANGER AND REVENGE:
Learning to understand that anger is a natural emotion and that there are ways to manage these feelings.

When Sophie Gets Angry, Really, Really Angry, By Molly Bang
Mean Soup, By Betsy Everitt
SELF-ESTEEM:
Learning to have acceptance about who we are and celebrating the differences between us.

Chrysanthemum, By Kevin Henkes
Just the Way You Are, By Marcus Pfister
The Lovables in the Kingdom of Self-Esteem, By Diana Loomans
I’m Gonna Like Me, By Jamie Lee Curtis and Laura Cornell
Stand Tall Molly Lou Melon, By Patty Lovell
DETHRONEMENT:
Feeling confident about my place and roll in the family.

Peter’s Chair, By Ezra Jack Keats
On Mother’s Lap, By Ann Herbert Scott
SEPARATION:
Learning to see that is ok to be away from my parents for awhile.

The Kissing Hand, By Audrey Penn
I Love You All Day Long, By Francesca Rusackas
Owen, Kevin Henkes
PERFECTIONISM AND COMPETENCE:
I feel anxious when I am unsure if I can do something the way I want. I worry about how things will turn out.

Leo the Late Bloomer, By Robert Kraus
Regina’s Big Mistake, By Marissa Moss
DEATH:
I need help expressing my grief over a loved one or a pet.

Lifetimes, The Beautiful Way to Explain Death To Children,
By Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen

The Tenth Good Thing About Barney, By Judith Viorst
Badger’s Parting Gifts, By Susan Varley
DIVORCE:
Helping children face the changes that divorce brings to a family.

Let’s Talk About It – Divorce, By Fred Rogers
FRIENDSHIP:
Understanding that our most important friends are sometimes those we least expect.

Owen and Mzee- The True Story of a Remarkable Friendship,
By, Isabella Hatkoff, Craig Hatkoff and Dr. Paula Kahumbu
ATTENTION:
Sometimes I feel that I am loved only when I get attention, so I do things that annoy my parents.

I need to know that I am loved no matter what.

Harriet, You’ll Drive Me Wild, By Mem Fox
Olivia, By Ian Falconer
BULLYING, TEASING AND GOSSIPING:
Learning to deal with other children who bully and tease, and the importance of ethical behavior.

Chrysanthemum, By Kevin Henkes
Mr. Peabody’s Apples, By Madonna
The Secret of the Peaceful Warrior, By Dan Millman (For older children)
SLEEP:
Can’t You Sleep, Little Bear?, By Martin Waddell and Barbara Firth

Parent Books
How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk 
By, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Faber & Mazlish provide a step by step approach to improving relationships in your house.
Siblings Without Rivalry 
By, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

The value of this book’s detailed discussions lies in the format. Faber & Mazlish talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses.
Positive Discipline – 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems 
By, Jane Nelson

All parents try to do their best, but the best of intentions don’t always produce the best results. The key to discipline is not punishment but mutual respect. The information about how to be kind yet firm is indispensable in learning how to establish boundaries without wounding.
Redirecting Children’s Behavior 
By, Katherine Kvols

Practical, logical suggestions for rearing self-motivated and responsible children. Understanding your response helps you to understand what is happening for your child.
Your (5,6,7,8,9,10-14) Year Old Child 
By, Louise Bates Ames

These books will help parents to better understand their children and will guide them through the fascinating and sometimes trying experiences of modern parenthood. Knowing how your child is developing, what “normal” development is, and what behaviors accompany development is invaluable in giving parents and teachers perspective, helping to inform responses.
Unconditional Parenting
By, Alfie Kohn

More than just another book about discipline, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of strategies for shifting from “do what I say” parenting to “working with” parenting. Kohn emphasizes that children do best with unconditional love, respect and the opportunity to make their own choices. Kohn asserts kids make good decisions by making decisions, not following directions.
Raising Your Spirited Child 
By, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Appropriately redefining the “difficult child” as the “spirited child”, who is “more” – more intense, more sensitive, more persistent, etc. This book helps parents better understand their children through defining temperamental matches and mismatches between you and your child and how to navigate through them.
Kids, Parents and Power Struggles - Winning for a Lifetime 
By, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Kurcinka builds up an image of the parent as the “emotional coach”, whose role is to build a strong connected “team” by understanding all the players’ strengths and weaknesses, and showing by instruction and example, how best to play the game.
It’s So Amazing 
By, Harris & Emberley

By the authors of 
It's Perfectly Normal, this book is a friendly and sensitive guide for younger children. As in their first book, Harris's words and Emberley's cartoon illustrations explore a wide range of topics--from the parts of the body to definitions of love--though the focus leans toward the biological rather than emotional issues involved in reproduction.
Wherever You Go, There You Are 
By, Jon Kabat-Zinn

Wherever You Go, There You Are, is a follow-up to Everyday Blessings, one of our most popular titles. In this book, Jon Kabat-Zinn goes much more deeply into the practice of meditation for its own sake. To Kabat-Zinn, meditation is important because it brings about a state of "mindfulness," a condition of "being" rather than "doing." This book will guide you in learning to focus on the moment rather than the distractions of everyday life that can interfere with effective parenting. In brief, rather poetic chapters, he describes different meditative practices and what they can do for the practitioner.
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships 
By Daniel Goleman

This book is a synthesis of the latest findings in biology and brain science, revealing that we are “wired to connect” and the surprisingly deep impact of our relationships on every aspect of our lives. Far more than we are consciously aware, our daily encounters with parents, spouses, bosses, and even strangers shape our brains and affect cells throughout our bodies—down to the level of our genes—for good or ill. Daniel Goleman explores an emerging new science with startling implications for our interpersonal world. Its most fundamental discovery: we are designed for sociability, constantly engaged in a “neural ballet” that connects us brain to brain with those around us. These findings provide a scientific foundation for the principles upon which Explorer is based.
One of the most heartening conclusions in this book is that we humans have a built-in bias toward empathy, cooperation, and altruism–provided we develop the social intelligence to nurture these capacities in ourselves and others.
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ 
By Daniel Goleman

Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman's brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our "two minds"—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny. Through vivid examples, Goleman delineates the five crucial skills of emotional intelligence, and shows how they determine our success in relationships, work, and even our physical well-being. What emerges is an entirely new way to talk about being smart.
Raising Resilient Children : Fostering Strength, Hope, and Optimism in Your Child (Paperback)
by Robert Brooks and Sam Goldstein

In this practical handbook for parents, clinical psychologists Brooks and Goldstein draw on their considerable experience working with children and families to demonstrate that parents' core goal should be to instill in their children a sense of inner recourse. "A resilient child is an emotionally healthy child, equipped to successfully confront challenges and bounce back from setbacks," they contend, and to this end they provide 10 parenting "guideposts" for nurturing the kind of resilience that helps children thrive. From being empathic, to teaching problem-solving, to identifying "islands of competence" in order to help a child experience success, to editing and eliminating what the authors call "negative scripts" (what parents hear themselves saying and doing repeatedly, "with negligible beneficial results"), the guideposts are clearly delineated, first outlined in the introductory chapter and then expanded in individual chapters.
Starbright: Meditations For Children 
Moonbeam: Meditations for Children 
Earthlight: New Meditations For Children 
By Maureen Garth

Driven by the desire to help her three-year-old daughter settle down into a peaceful night's sleep, Maureen Garth devised meditations that would help her daughter feel secure and cared for. Starbright, Moonbeam, and Earthlight are collections of the stories Garth created as her child grew older. These innovative meditations are simple visualizations parents and teachers can read to their children to help them sleep, develop concentration, awaken creativity, and learn to quiet themselves. In her engaging, warm, and personal style, Garth teaches parents how to help their children relax, concentrate, and develop artistic and mental abilities, as well as enjoy a good night's sleep.